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Nov 6, 2022Liked by Kelton Wright

"I still believe no one is coming to help me. ... I ask for help, and I cower in the shame of it until I succumb to the joy of it."

"Every day, I keep learning that self-sufficiency isn’t how hard you can be. It’s how soft."

Lessons I started learning years ago and still need reminders of. Thank you.

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Nov 6, 2022Liked by Kelton Wright

"a buttload of candles."

YEP I feel that.

Hooray for social media not being a hellscape, but a place to find copacetic human beings.

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Nov 6, 2022Liked by Kelton Wright

Loved this. Thank you Kelton and Michelle. 💛

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Thank you both for these gentle words of wisdom.

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Wow!! Amazing stuff! Really resonates because my wife is cut from the same kind of wood. She's a real go-getter – and likewise suffers for it. I'm going to force her to read this ASAP. Reminds me of the old Dylan song "Just Like A Woman," but I am not so naive or ignorant as to suppose that men do not suffer similarly. I'm living proof. Both articles are raging proofs of the idea that we need to limit our distractions and choose our priorities wisely: it's so easy to lose oneself and become just another of the scarred millions...PS: Michelle it's "make do" not "due"...;-) Where's your father from? My wife's German...

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I so needed to read this. I might need to read it daily for a while until it starts to sink in. “you’re not an inconvenience, Kelton. But it is annoying when you act like one.” - ohhhhhh. I do this.

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Thank you both for a beautiful great piece that forces me to reflect on my self-sufficiency. Being newly married has put the kibosh on my (typical) fight-or-flight response. I'm learning to soften, but my bag is still packed in the event of....

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Oh, this piece is beautiful. And yes, self-sufficiency is self-care. But also, we need to embrace being interdependent (not dependent) with others.

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Wonderful read on a Monday morning for me, I'm really enjoying your writing. Agree with the self sufficiency, I also struggle with finding the line between wanting to do it myself, and realising that its actually detrimental and I should lower my armour and accept some help. Thank you for sharing x

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Nov 6, 2022Liked by Kelton Wright

I loved this-softening is something I've been focusing on in the last year, and letting going of that stubborn self-sufficiency is probably the last hurdle. Thank you both for sharing.

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Nov 6, 2022Liked by Kelton Wright

Beautiful!

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Nov 6, 2022Liked by Kelton Wright

Look what you created and how it resonates. Amazing - the two pieces, the humans, the pets, the home - they all mesh as a gift to the writers and the audiences who read this week's Shangrilogs. Well done. With tears of empathy and joy.

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Nov 6, 2022Liked by Kelton Wright

Endlessly thank you. <3

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Absolute great read on this rainy Sunday morning. Thank you both for all the reminders. 💟

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Nov 6, 2022Liked by Kelton Wright

Thank you both for these important reminders <3

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Nov 6, 2022Liked by Kelton Wright

I have been putting in the work to get Ruth to understand Ani’s unreal songwriting. Glad that quote stuck with you - I think about “I’ve gotten out of everything I’ve gotten into so far” regularly too.

Love that you’re getting better at asking for help

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